Grief Support- What can we do with our emotions?

In life, it is hard to be part of any other person grieving process not unless you get an invitation asking you to be involved. It is important to know that you may fall victim of helpless and guilty when challenged by a death. You may also feel that you can't do much to comfort and assist the bereaved person. This is a general natural feeling, although there are certain ways by which you can employ to help in different levels of the grief process. You should always be a supporter; understand that you are present to be leaned upon. Be helpful in practical activities such as giving funeral details, providing meals and being a partaker of confusing tasks that arise after death.

A person suffering from grief need to be listened to. Be ready to accept a friends need to pour out emotions and to give repeated tales about life and death of their loved ones. People are always ready to talk about their experience of loss. Furthermore, you have to be a friend for you to help a friend undergoing grief. Help the people get back in touch and acceptance of the world around them. A friend will be one who encouraging involvement in hobbies, special interest groups and social activities among others. Only a few people are in a position to cope with the pain of bereavement. They are particularly ready to share their pain and loss. It is an usual and crucial section of the process. Nevertheless if the stress is extreme, guide them in getting professional support and help needed by the bereaved.

When a friend or a relative dies in a disaster such as bushfire or flood, it can be much harder to cope with. Disasters always occur unexpectedly, thus you do not have time to get prepared. A disaster not only have an effect on you, but also on the community, family and friends. Dealing with any kind of disaster is difficult enough to stress you up. Coping with the loss of a loved one or a friend, the loss of your school or home, or any major disruptions during life can pile to the existing emotional stress. Establish a new beginning when the grief becomes less severe, get back to your usual activities that you might have dropped and assign yourself something new. For instance, developing a new relationship at a considerate pace.

Grief lasts long just like the way you can adjust to changes in life once you suffer a loss. It has no fixed timetable; emotions, thoughts, behaviors and other kind of responses may arise and go.A lot of people write books about grief occurrence in stages, however, it is more of the cycles that come and go. Nevertheless, this is dependent on your occupation and any triggers which evoke the remembrance of a deceased person. Everybody fears and hate loss of companionship or changes which might take effect on our lives over time. But in the final end, dealing effectively with the bereavement is crucial to a the mental health of a grieving individual.


Author Renee' Sunday
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Grief Questions & Support: Emotions

Grief is an enduring and an intense emotion which everyone can experience. The grief process is different for different people. This depends on the personal attachment and the type of loss that one suffers. That’s why grief emotions will vary from individual to another. Imagine a case where your beloved is in a car accident after five minutes being with you. How would you feel? This kind of loss, which is sudden, can lead to a family member being subjected to very intense grief. Such loss is accompanied by anger, blame, denial and depression. This grieving can take a few weeks or years before you fit yourself with the new way of life.

More intensity adds to the existing grief due to other burdens surrounding the family. Such burdens may include financial constraints, compensations among others. To reduce the pressures from grief, family members always strive to communicate constantly, trying to regain concentration in work places, and encouraging the younger kids although most of the family members feel no worth in living. Grieving is totally unpredictable. There is no defined grief process since it's not a step by step model. It might be accompanied by sadness and numbness in the initial stages and then an increased grieving or vice versa or mixed up grief.

The grief process is seen by the society a way of undergoing linear process which leads to a kind of acceptance in the final end. But this is seemingly opposite of the truth. Grief makes you feel rejected and wanting to seclude yourself from the society without sharing. You can only use the mode of expression that work for you, otherwise writing, talking and music are some of the ways to express grief. Moreover, spiritual feeling form part of the grief process. You will question the reason behind the loss. At the same time you can be comforted by spiritual beliefs or go ahead to doubt your beliefs.

But you cannot carry the grief for life. At a point you have to accept the reality at any cost. It's hard to get over it and move on. However, you can learn to accommodate the grief. This means going out to the world once again and start building oneself as a new person. With time, interaction with the world and other family members will enable you to create new relationships with other people. For instance, your family can engage in gardening provided it's an activity appreciated by every family member. You can also be involved in a debate with other people and so on.

Due to distress and anger, it's somehow next to impossible in fighting the loss. However, with time the sad days will be history turning to the pleasurable moments you had with the loved one. Try and adapt to the new environment different from the original one. You can only achieve the new environment by getting busy with some meaningful and significant activities in your life. Accept the reality, undergo the pain, adjust to the new way of life and finally put all your emotions to the new way of life and you will overcome the grief process.

Renee' Sunday,M.D.

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